Serendipity shows her face another morning. Synchronicity too. I’ve been reading quite a bit of Danielle LaPorte lately and posting writings inspired from my reads of her work. What’s all this timeliness about? You’ll see.
I started this post yesterday announcing a time-out, hiatus for the Kathy Weinkle Coaching blog. I didn’t finish writing until this morning. Just before I was set out to write, I read this from Danielle LaPorte. Hmm, was I channeling the same energy? Perhaps not, but I’m here. Landed. Ready to take a break from this coaching blog. Beginning next Monday, June 18.
The reasons are simple. I’m re-engineering, clearing out and redirecting where I take this site next. To be perfectly frank, I’ve felt a little choked up (not with tears) but with words when it comes to writing this blog. I have let myself just write when I’m moved to about whatever moves me: food, fear, compassion, purpose. That’s all been good, healthy and part of the journey of this blog. But the time has come for change.
I’m a learner by doing and in most energized when I allow spontaneity. I’m not the one who has mapped out every stop on the journey, though I appreciate the traveler who does. I follow the lead of my own intuition and in that follow my vision, my own road map of sorts. When I do, I have more fun and most importantly stay true to my inner compass. When I don’t, I get stuck on the trail until I decide to head off into the direction that’s pulling me.
So this hiatus is about listening. To what’s calling. I’ll post here and there for awhile about interesting finds along the way. Until I’m posting somewhere else.
For now. Stay tuned.
I’m sitting in my kitchen, working out some recipes, reading, writing, waiting for cupcakes to come out of the oven, cooking greens all while listening to my favorite Pandora station that spans the likes of Iron & Wine, Mazzy Star, The Decemberists, and Ray Lamontagne.
Looking for a burst of morning inspiration as if making cupcakes, gluten-free vegan flatbread and cashew cheese weren’t enough, I grabbed my copy of “The Fire Starter Sessions”, you know the book I implored you to get in my last post. In pursuit of fun, I decided to open the book at random to see where I’d land and then read on from there.
And so I did and there it was in bold, all caps, might as well have been flashing neon:
“Do Not Do What Fear Tells You To Do”
And again with the synchronicity. Timing. The whole my heart speaking thing. Only louder this time “Do Not Do What Fear Tells You To Do”
“Don’t do what Fear Tells You To Do.”
Simple as that? Maybe not. There’s more.
I backtracked to the start of this chapter which is called “Fear and Other Tough Stuff.” Fear is tough and sometimes I have a way of disregarding and walking over the toughness wearing a sort of cape made of falsetto brave tra la la-ing “this is easy.” And its not. Fear is tough. And its big.
I’ve come to know fear as a traveling companion who is sometimes docile, quiet; and other times more like a backseat driver screaming “Turn Here! No Dooooon’t!”. I’ve shaken hands, made friends with, listened to her (fear that is, who’ve I’ve now assigned a gender). Fear, she has her place.
Fear is inevitable, natural, and immensely useful. On a physical level, the fear instinct serves to keep us alive.”
True, sometimes listening to fear is essential when say hauling ass out of a flash flood in Austin Texas at 3 am (true story) or putting a halt to back-country skiing when I had ahem NO avalanche training. I’m sure you have your examples when listening to fear was useful.
Fear is not a one-eyed, big hairy green monster. Fear is an emotion though if sketched may look like the former.
“…just like all of your emotions, “Fear just wants to be seen and heard,” Laporte writes.
Fear wants to be heard, not criticized.
That makes me think of Habit #5 from Steven Covey’s “The 7 Habits of:” fill in the blank (Happy Kids, Teens, Highly Effective People, Mothers and Fathers and well everyone.) No sarcasm here, I’m a big fan of “The 7 Habits.”
Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood
Now if I apply Habit #5 to Fear.
Listen closely to Fear. Seek to understand her. Respect her. Be her friend. Spread some love her way. And remember you get to make a choice. To listen. Or not.
We can listen to what fear speaks and still go towards what’s true in our deep self.
We can chose to step into what fear presents. Or not.
Fear shows up in all of us or most of us I believe anyway. We can respect her without letting her take over, or captain our ship. There are exceptions. Yes.
Fear: she travels with me as I go along. I see her.
I know that over the last few months in matters of personal deep, I am learning to understand fear on a whole new level. She shows up right along side the tough choices and new decisions I make.
For a long while, I listened to fear often, sat down, forgot that I had choice and there I’d go putting on another layer that kept me hidden and so I thought safe.
But now, I am not always listening when she whines criticisms, doubts and those pleas not to do what feels right inside.
Fear is an emotion. One to hold with compassion. Not judgement.
Fear: What Is It Good For?
Fear is good for the growing. Me. You. From the inside out.
In getting to know our fear, there is the possibility to open, shed another layer, get to the emerging of who we are. Who we were all along unshrouded from whatever holds us back.
When we step in.
We give way to the bloom.